Monday, May 17, 2010
Now for the question(s) - Do you friend older people on Facebook? Specifically older family members?
This is a question that greatly distresses me, and that I've debated before. It's just that as Facebook becomes more ubiquitous and the online population expands, there's always those awkward gaps in internet culture, like when Myspace people make the jump and they start writing "thanks 4 da add" or your page, or when newbies get a little overzealous with the silk pillow wall posts. Things get lost in translation on Facebook if you're not really familiar with the person, like the time when I "got engaged" to a friend* on Facebook and my parents started fielding phone calls of congratulations. I realized then that just because someone is your Facebook friend doesn't mean they actually get you as a person (duh).
Which brings me to my current situation. My dad's sister requested me as a Facebook friend about a month ago. As of now, for the record, "I forgot/don't see it/aren't on it that much/any other good excuse to not friend her." However I fear the day when I'm going to have to address the issue head on and face to face. Anyone who's my friend knows my page isn't explicit, it's just that its often filled with humor that may be lost on more than one person. I'm ok with people not getting it, I'm just not into explaining it if you don't. I plan on continuing to ignore her request, but when it comes down to it should I friend her or tell her the truth and risk hurting her feelings? Is there an obligation to friend family on social networks? I need to know the rules of netiquette.
*This friend is gay, and the picture that showed up in the news feed when it was "announced" was of him sitting on my lap, full glossy lips. Why anyone would take that seriously is beyond me, but smarts are rarely distributed equally.